Children need structure in their lives -- without limits, they may be anxious, unpleasant, and a danger to themselves and others. Children feel more secure and successful when they can operate within known boundaries and routines.
The goal is to teach children to solve problems, make choices, learn to live with the consequences of their choices, and achieve desired behaviors.
Tips:
* Plan the day and tell children what activities will be offered and how they are expected to behave.
* Set a good example.
* Be clear and straightforward. Avoid over-explaining.
* Keep rules simple.
* Limit the amount of rules.
* Stick with the situation at hand.
* Offer specific choices.
* Pick your battles - you do not need to react to everything!
* Offer time-out, divert, and redirect as needed.
* Do not over react.
* Do not act in anger. Wait until you settle down before you settle on a consequence.
* Use phrases that reflect consequences.
* Follow through on your consequences.
* Use positive statements for positive actions.
* Distinguish feelings from behavior. It is okay to be mad, it is not okay to hurt someone.
* Try not to compare children.
* Always focus on the behavior, not on the person.
Specific Situations:
* Public places: Weigh your options and decide what you want to accomplish. Is it more important for you to stick to your rules or to get something done?
* Special events: Adjust activities to attention spans, prepare for transitions, and keep children occupied.
Adapted from a Bananas handout.
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