Researcher Diana Baumrind of UC Berkeley found that an "authoritative" parenting style produces kids who are more self-reliant, self-confident, socially competent and less anxious and depressed.
Parenting Styles
1. Authoritarian - Parents are firm but not warm. Children tend to be well behaved but have less developed self regulation and moral reasoning skills because they are guided by external forces (i.e., the threat of punishment) rather than internal principles.
2. Authoritative - Parents are firm and warm, involved and responsive, with high expectations.
3. Permissive - Parents are warm but not firm. Children tend to have high self-esteem but are also more impulsive, more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, and more likely to get into trouble at school.
4. Uninvolved - Parents are neither firm nor warm. Children are most likely to be delinquent.
Aim to be authoritative. Just remember, being authoritarian takes more time, effort, and patience. And defiant children may need more of an authoritarian style, whereas fearful children may need more of a permissive parenting style.
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