Don't make rules you can't enforce consistently and keep your commitments. Kids need to know that you mean what you say; this builds trust and respect.2. Catch kids being good, and tell them specifically what you liked.
3. Harness the power of natural consequences.
4. Practice positive touch (e.g., hugs, loving pats, cuddles)
5. Make a clear distinction between kids and their behavior.
Always communicate with your words and actions that you love them no matter what, even if you don't like their behavior.
6. Show them the way.
Punishment only suppresses behavior. Tell kids the behavior you want to see and then praise it specifically.
7. Beware over-functioning for your kids.
Making mistakes and experiencing failure and disappointment are essential life experiences that provide the opportunity for kids to learn and practice good coping skills.
8. Avoid disciplining kids when they are hungry or tired.
9. Teach kids the 3 P's: practice, patience, and perseverance.
10. Help kids learn to feel their feelings and choose their actions.
Coach kids in how to respond (versus react). It's okay to feel whatever they're feeling, but it may not be okay to follow their feelings into action (e.g., hitting, yelling).
Source: Erica Reischer, PhD
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